The self help / personal development industry is huge right now.
Especially in the entrepreneurial world (*cough* I am in it *cough*).
This industry can be either problematic or beautiful. It just depends on which lens you are using to look at your growth and development. One lens is that you are a problem to be fixed, and the other is that you are inherently good just as you are, but are holding space to be better.
It can be problematic when the narratives we create do more harm than good. When we’re told that we are a problem that needs to be fixed, we end up focusing on what we feel makes us broken, incomplete, undeserving, and unworthy. We forget that we are human beings, not machines, which means we are never broken. We don’t need to be fixed, nor can we ever achieve ‘perfection’ when we are all so beautifully different and complex. We weren’t ‘built’ to be perfect and that’s where self help can sometimes be problematic: when it treats us as if we are broken and that if we were just tinkered with enough, we might become perfect one day.
When we approach our development from the perspective that we’re broken, we lose the space to hold compassion and gratitude for ourselves.
It can also be beautiful when we use the lens that we are inherently good just as we are, and simply holding space to be better. Self compassion is the ultimate business strategy (and strategy for life too)! If whatever you’re doing is infused with self compassion then you are more likely to accomplish your goals. Compassion leads you to believe that you can strive to be better than you already are while still fully embracing who you are now. It gives you space to honour your strengths and areas for growth. It allows you to embrace the idea that you are good enough, right now, without having to change a single thing.
Using the lens that we are inherently good as we are actually gives us more energy, whereas when we see ourselves as a problem to be fixed, we waste a lot of energy beating ourselves up.
The kind of energy that exists with the idea that you are inherently good is empowering, compassionate, and encouraging.
When you are a problem to be fixed, the energy is judging, negative, self aggressive, and can even be punishing.
Ask yourself:
How much time and energy are you wasting on fighting who you are?
How can you accept yourself as you are, while still holding space to be better?
On this episode, I cover:
- Why I don’t work 8 hour days
- How trying to fix yourself drains your creative energy
- My evolution from judging myself to celebrating myself
Remember that you’re doing better than you think.
Remember that you’re not a problem to be fixed.
Remember that you’re inherently good, beautiful, and capable as you are RIGHT NOW.
Together we’ve got this.
I believe in you.
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