A lot of us have built our lives based on who we think we’re supposed to be – not necessarily who we actually are
That’s why we find ourselves at this crossroads. Knowing something needs to change but not fully knowing what that might be or how to do it.
The quality of our lives is determined by the quality of our questions
A powerful question can unlock rooms full of self-knowledge that were once locked away and hidden. Many of us go through our lives making assumptions about who we are, that others know better or more than us, that ‘success’ looks a certain way, that we need to be more like others in order to be successful and other assumptions that end up dictating our lives.
There was a time in my life when I came to the heartbreaking conclusion that I was incapable of romantic love. I saw how my friends felt about their boyfriends and realized that I couldn’t access that.
I have always been queer, I just didn’t know it at the time. I never asked nor was asked the right questions. An assumption was made and that assumption dedicated my life, until the first time I questioned it. In that very moment, I learned something profound about myself that had always been there, just hiding in plain sight.
What assumptions might you be making about yourself that are in fact not true?
What would happiness look like to you if you didn’t try to measure it but instead experienced it?
What would success look like if you didn’t compare yourself to those around you?
What activities, people and places are energy giving? What is energy draining?
If you knew you lived multiple lives, how might you choose to fully embody this one if you knew it would help you in the next one?
If you were guaranteed success, what risk would you take now to radically change your life?
Are there areas of your life where you are staying small out of comfort or to please others?
If you knew you only had 10 years left to live, what would you change and how would you live those next 10 years?
If you weren’t afraid of failure, judgment or letting people down, what shifts might you make in your life?
What are your core values as a human and are you sacrificing any of them right now? Why?
Why are you doing what you’re doing? Are you doing it because it brings you joy? Adds value in some meaningful way to your life? Is it getting you closer to a long term goal of yours? Or are you simply doing it because you think you need to?
What questions might you be afraid to ask because you’re afraid of the answer?
As Cory Muscara said, who you are is not your fault but it is your responsibility. A life well lived is your responsibility to yourself and what does a life well lived mean for you?
These are some of the things we will explore together. There is no cookie-cutter approach to my style of coaching. It’s all based on genuinely connecting with you, listening, inquiring, uncovering and unpacking what is real and true for you. From there we embark on exploring your greatest adventure yet – you.
Who you are isn’t your fault, but it’s your responsibility. You owe it to yourself to thrive and live a life of meaning.
